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Live in the moment and don't get to caught up in the future. using as a way to meet new friends to share similar hobbies and interests). you say "well, I do have my physical desires to contend with" but you also say you don't want sex. As a middle aged dater (actually have a BF now), I can tell you that some things are very different. One thing that is surprising is that you go on a date and you think it went great only to get the fade. You don't get rejected, but she'll kind of disappear by not returning calls or texts. I didn't make any major mistakes, but I was naive in thinking that a couple good dates meant he wanted a relationship. The best advice I can give as a divorcee dating myself, is to drop your "Relationship Filter" at this point. Consider starting out with day dates, keep them active (no dinner and movie, or if you must eat, get only appetizers sitting next to each other at the bar), light, fun and flirty, NO HEAVY TALK about your or her past, baggage, etc. __________________ Whatever you project, the world will reflect... "We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."...... If you're really not ready for all the complexities of dating - and yes, it's murky waters - maybe you could consider doing meetups (e.g.
But in the last decade or so, the game of looking for love has gotten some new rules, with the venue moving from the bar world to the the cyber world.
Instead of men searching for the right verbal approach, many now search for the right photo to put on their profile page.
Time to ever so slowly, get back into the dating world. But I like companionship with the opposite sex and, well, I do have my physical desires to contend with. The rule is it's all fun and games until the exclusivity talk. Sex is not the holy grail that women seem to make it out to be. Nothing wrong with consensual unattached adults doing whatever strikes their fancy. Some couples have a "safe word" or "code word" if something they are doing is uncomfortable.
Third - seems to be the traditional "expected sex date". But that has the baggage of the seal-a-deal, implied exclusivity and intimacy that honestly I'm not ready for. When you're casual, you can do whatever you want, as in date other people, and she can too. Because it's rude to throw that in the other person's face. To capitalize on sanskrit's advice about the ex - even if SHE starts in on her ex, don't think to yourself "Oh, we're talking about exes, it's ok" and then talk about your ex and experience (especially not on the first date) Simply nod, say "I'm sorry to hear that," and change the topic.
And of course, the dating coach/hostess/girlfriend lapped it up.
If it were possible, her head would have spun around with giddy glee.
I don't know how long it's been since you last dated but things have changed since the 80's and even 90's. Although I'm sure you can find someone who is comfortable continuing "dating" one person without sex, I don't think that's the norm at our age (I'm middle-aged too). I think "old fashioned" rules work extremely well in the dating world. Have dates where the environment (art, nature, events) lead to easy conversation topics.
I've found that there are as many different rules as there are people. Or maybe you should do a lot of very casual / multi-dating, not letting any dates get past the 3rd date. Or accept a second date, but somehow not be able to schedule it. We're used to being in one, and it's hard not to view every new date without thinking "I wonder how/if..." The truth is, you'll likely have several first dates. I'm not saying that you should continue to date someone you know is a bad choice for you, but start with a "friend filter" first, and look for things you have in common with the person, rather than go through a disqualification checklist. I can't tell you how many men out there sit around and wait for the woman to initiate. Deflect red pencil HR type questions with humor, and certainly don't ask them yourself.
The boyfriend of her friend seemed a little shy and seemed not to want to be there, and his advice was bland but fine. Lather on the praise to the point of suffocation and chances are most people are left too breathless to wonder what it really says about the one doing the praising. But I do blame the gullible women in the audience for buying the snake oil, and especially his then-girlfriend -- a 'dating coach," remember?
I tend to be pretty direct, and believe if women want the male perspective, I should offer it warts and all. I could have told you this eventual outcome just listening to his Ode to My Amazing Girlfriend yammering on the panel.
A few months ago, I was on a "dating over 50" panel intended to offer male perspectives to an entirely female audience. But again, I'm not concerned about one narcissistic guy pretending to be something he isn't.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating